Resilience: Bend and bounce, so you won’t break
Look Back, Learn and Whenever Possible, Laugh.
Allow yourself to review past events and reinterpret them, drawing strength from your experiences. As you review your life, step back and look at yourself objectively, as if you are watching a movie. Review your story. Find humor where you can, inspiration and courage where you can. Give yourself credit for character and grace and avoid blaming or judging yourself or others. Refuse to engage in beating yourself up or “should-ing” yourself to death. Accept the things you can’t change and take stock of the things that are within your power to change.
One thing that is always in reach, always in your power to change, is your attitude. Everyone has a story. Remember that you are the author of your life story; you may prefer to think of yourself as the director of your “life movie.” If so, cast yourself as the hero! You can find your bearing and begin working toward a triumphant third act or conclusion. And, as in movies, a little comic relief can’t hurt.
Develop a Plan of Action.
If you want to build resilience, you will need a daily plan of action. Action creates motivation, and motivation creates more action. Always be proactive in the face of adversity, failure, loss, illness or injury. Advance in the face of difficulties or challenges, one day at a time. Remember, you’re working on the next scene in your life’s movie, so make it a comeback story – a triumph of the human spirit theme. Reach out and march headlong toward all that life has to offer. Think: I’m still alive. This experience did not kill me. What doesn’t kill me I can use to make myself stronger and more flexible. Set measurable, doable goals and be consistent with your action plan.
Keep Hope Alive and Practice Being Optimistic.
Always look forward to a bright future. Visualization is a powerful tool used by athletes, performers and people from all walks of life. At least once a day, take time to visualize yourself where you want to be, and celebrate it as though you are already there. Permit yourself to feel all the peace, exultation and joy that comes as you picture yourself in this specific happy situation, having reached your goal. It’s good to visualize the same thing each day – repetition programs your unconscious mind.
Write affirmations or use mantras. These tools can help you to establish your own inner cheerleading squad. When you choose a mantra, be sure it’s positive. “It’s temporary,” “I’m learning,” or “I’m healing,” are positive mantras. Obviously, “Why me?” or “It’s not fair,” are not positive mantras. Practice mindfulness meditation and develop skills to counteract negative feelings and mindset.