Resilience: Bend and bounce, so you won’t break
Doug is a manager at a large retail firm. Recently his department reported a significant drop in sales. Doug and his team are working diligently to earn a bigger market share this holiday season, so he wants to find a way to lead and instill confidence in his subordinates, but deep down he wonders if he’s got what it takes to rebound personally, let alone carry others along.
Bob’s office is down the hall from Arthur’s, and he works in the same department. Bob is always upbeat, even seems inspired in the face of adversity and challenge. Doug knows that Bob, a newcomer on the team, joined the company after being laid off by a competitor. Doug admires Bob’s attitude and ability to rally staff’s confidence and morale. He asks himself how Bob does it and even wonders if it’s something Bob was born with.
Bob’s secret is his resilience, and he wasn’t born with it. He built it. Resiliency is the ability to bounce back, adapt to adversity, and roll with the punches. Resilience gives us the flexibility to restore ourselves, and our lives, after difficulty, trauma and loss, and it is a quality in high demand during these rapidly changing times. Although there may be a genetic factor involved, resilience is not something you are either born with or not. You can learn, build, and develop your resilience. A sense of humor, like resilience, can also be learned and developed, and it, too, can really help you to roll with the punches.
Here are four strategies to help you build your resilience:
Get Connected and Stay Connected.
Resilience does not mean standing alone through hard times. Relationships with others who are supportive and positive are essential to achieving and maintaining resilience. Mentors, friends, family, advisors and associates can provide encouragement, experience, strength and hope during uncertain, adverse, or painful times.
Isolation creates brittleness and inflexibility – you’re more likely to sink into a negative state of mind when alone with losses, failures or trauma. And your connectedness involves not only receiving, but giving encouragement, experience, strength and hope. When you reach out to support and share with others, you gain and build resilience and allow yourself a chance to heal from your personal injury or trauma. Get involved with support groups, community involvement, etc. And remember to have fun. Fun does wonders for your sense of humor, your resilience, and your health.